You’re doing the work, so why do you still feel stuck?
You’ve read the books. Maybe you’ve tried therapy. You’ve made to-do lists, said affirmations, downloaded the apps, even changed your morning routine.
Still… something isn’t shifting.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. We see it often in our work at The Holistic Psychiatry Clinic. People arrive thinking they’re missing something. But in truth, they’re often carrying something — an invisible set of blocks inside that quietly shapes their choices, reactions and energy.
These aren’t just bad habits or mindset glitches. They’re protective patterns, built slowly over years, often rooted in earlier pain or unconscious belief.
So let’s look at what those blocks might be. More importantly, let’s explore how you can start dissolving them — gently, honestly and at your own pace.
⚙️ Block #1: You’re waiting for a better version of you to show up first
A quiet but common belief:
“I’ll act once I feel more confident. More ready. More together.”
But confidence rarely shows up before the action. It’s usually something that follows it — a reward for courage, not a pre-condition.
The longer we wait to feel ready, the more we reinforce the story that we’re not. That voice in your head whispering “not yet” might not be your intuition — it could be fear wearing a friendly face.
Instead, ask yourself:
What would I do today if I wasn’t waiting to feel more ready?
Even the smallest step forward — a conversation, a boundary, a moment of honesty — starts to dissolve the block.
🧠 Block #2: You’ve mistaken old beliefs for truth
Thoughts are not facts.
Still, they shape our entire inner world.
Many people live with deep beliefs formed long ago, often without realising it. Beliefs like:
- “I always mess things up.”
- “Nothing good lasts for me.”
- “I’m not someone who follows through.”
These may have come from childhood, school, a past relationship, even cultural messages. But if they go unchallenged, they become the filter through which everything is experienced.
The first step is awareness.
The second is compassion.
Try asking:
Where did I learn this belief?
Is it helping or hurting me?
Who might I be without it?
🧱 Block #3: You’re protecting yourself — even when you don’t realise it
Sometimes what we call “self-sabotage” is really self-protection.
- Not applying for that job? Safer than risking rejection.
- Not speaking your truth? Easier than facing conflict.
- Overthinking every choice? Protects you from failure — or success.
These patterns were useful once. But the version of you that needed them is not the same version reading this now.
You’ve grown. The block hasn’t.
At our clinic, we explore these protective parts of you with deep respect. We don’t rush to remove them. We get to know them. And in that relationship, their grip often loosens.
🧭 Block #4: You’re trying to create change on the surface, not the roots
You might be trying to change your habits, routines, or mindset — but if the core story underneath hasn’t shifted, the changes won’t stick.
For example, a client once told us,
“I keep making detailed plans, then I never follow through.”
What we uncovered was a buried belief: “I always disappoint people.”
Every time she made a plan, that belief showed up. Her nervous system wasn’t lazy — it was avoiding pain.
Until she addressed that deeper narrative, no planner or productivity hack made a difference.
This is where transformational coaching blends beautifully with psychiatry.
We don’t just manage symptoms — we explore the beliefs and emotions driving them.
🕊️ Block #5: You haven’t given yourself permission to change
This one runs deep.
You might want more. You might know what needs to change. But something inside says:
- “Who am I to live differently?”
- “That would be selfish.”
- “What will others think?”
Permission is often the quiet missing piece.
And the truth is, no one can give it to you but you.
Try this:
Put your hand on your chest and say out loud:
“It’s safe to change.”
“It’s okay to grow.”
“I don’t need to earn the right to heal.”
The more often you say it, the more your nervous system begins to believe it.
🌿 You’re not broken — you’re blocked
Most people don’t need to be fixed. They need to be met where they are, with deep understanding and practical tools.
That’s what we offer at The Holistic Psychiatry Clinic — not just advice or prescriptions, but real partnership in unblocking what’s beneath the surface.
Inner blocks are not flaws.
They are survival patterns. Emotional bruises. Protective strategies that have simply outlived their usefulness.
When seen with compassion, they begin to shift.
💬 Want to explore what’s holding you back?
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